26 Feb

Case Study: Ghosts in the Nursery

“In every nursery there are ghosts.

They are the visitors from the unremembered past of the parents, the uninvited guests at the christening…”

Parent-infant psychotherapist Yvonne Osafo works for WLAC. She presented this case study to the Trustees in February. It illustrates how she is helping one of WLAC’s clients to ‘evict’ ghosts from her nursery.

Collette (not her real name) was plagued by many ghosts from her past. Her own parents had suffered trauma before she was even conceived and Collette and her siblings were all taken into foster care. Whilst in care, Collette ran away many times and engaged in promiscuity. As an adult she was a victim of domestic violence and both of her own children were taken into care.

Collette was referred to WLAC by a domestic violence organisation when she was about 7 months pregnant with her third child. I met with Collette and her social worker. The social worker made it clear that it was his intention to take the baby into care straight after the birth. However, Collette wanted to fight for her baby. She said she was keen to accept every possible help in order to become a good mother. She engaged eagerly and attended regular sessions of parent-infant psychotherapy.

The initial focus of our therapy was to prepare Collette to fall in love with her baby even before she was born. This involved helping her to imagine what baby would be like and to make plans for her, preparing her to greet her baby and capture the first gaze. After the baby’s birth, the aim was to focus on the bond and the parent-infant relationship.

Collette went to court soon after the birth of her baby. The social worker was still making the case that mother and baby should be separated because of what had happened in the past.

I could see enough good evidence that with the right support, Collette could care for her child. I wrote to the court about Collette’s positive engagement in therapy and suggested that mother and baby should remain together with support. In my view this was in the best interests of the baby. The judge listened and ordered that Collette and her baby should be placed in a foster home.

This did not work out. Back at court, the judge said nevertheless, there had been improvement and that mother and baby should stay together. So they were placed in a mother and baby unit. Our therapy continued. Collette also had ‘Video Interaction Guidance’ support from the Tavistock Clinic. This involves using video feedback to help parents become more sensitive and attuned to their child’s emotional needs.

Collette and her baby thrived. The ‘scaffolding’ in place gave her the support she needed to look after her baby. The unit provided structure for her days with a simple timetable of activities. She knew that she was not alone. She had people she could trust to turn to for advice and support.

Collette is now back in her flat with her baby. The support work continues. At her weekly therapy sessions I have seen her grow in confidence and learn to think independently.

But the ghosts have not yet departed

In order to evict the ghosts from Collette’s nursery it is necessary to help her to revisit her early traumatic experiences, to recognise influences from her own past and to link them to her current functioning. That is how we can facilitate new paths for growth and development for her and her child. This is now the focus of our work together.

Collette is remembering her past: the abuse, the loss, the abandonment and the loneliness. She apologises frequently as she remembers the gruesomeness of her past. She is linking this with her current experience with her baby. She is committed to being the best mother she can be.

The work continues.

13 Feb

Motherhood, writing and art

Broadcaster, journalist and author Clover Stroud was ‘in conversation’ with artist Amy Shuckburgh exploring the many and varied aspects of motherhood at Olympia Auctions, 25 Blythe Road on 13th February.

Clover is currently writing a book on motherhood and Amy’s paintings and drawings as well as sculptures by Arabella Brooke on that theme were curated into a striking yet intimate exhibition at the gallery.

Discussions pivoted around the topic of motherhood –  exploring the question of identity and how motherhood reshapes you as a person; its ‘confusing pleasure’ – the physical and mental challenges, the resilience required, the nerves needed. Clover and Amy also discussed how motherhood affects creativity, and vice versa, with references to their writing and the art works.

Clover has written  ‘Motherhood is such a massive, strange process, during which absolutely everything in the world seems to happen, and also nothing at all. I struggle with that dichotomy a bit: no other activity in my life takes me from the pits of despair to the heights of joy and fascination, several times a day, sometimes several times an hour, quite like motherhood does.’

Isabel Taylor, a member of our Brook Green Fundraising Group said a few words about WLAC’s work. She highlighted the importance of providing counselling and therapy to local parents who face the inevitable challenges of parenting compounded by other serious issues in their lives and the challenges of managing on low incomes.

We would like to thank Olympia Auctions for hosting and promoting this inspiring event, Jeroboams for donating the drinks and Amy Shuckburgh, Arabella Brooke and Clover Stroud for donating their time, creative input and a selection of drawings and postcards for sale in aid of WLAC. Together with a collection on the night we raised £1,243. Thank you to everyone who came and supported the event.

02 Dec

Sweet stall

Aara, one of our youngest supporters, braved the winter cold to run a sweet stall in aid of WLAC at the Kite Studios Christmas Event in December. She set out her stall beautifully and it was very popular. She raised £24 to help local children and families. Well done Aara!

07 Dec

An Evening with Belloc

We are delighted to announce an exciting one -off event, organised especially for WLAC:

An Evening with Belloc – a convivial evening of timeless satire, wit and rhyme featuring the life and work of Hilaire Belloc

Presented by John Julius Norwich, John Bromley-Davenport & LAMDA actors, and directed by Judy Bromley-Davenport

The event will take place on Wednesday 31 January 2018 at St Paul’s Girls’ School.  Doors will open at 6.30pm, performance to start at 7.15pm

Please visit www.virginmoneygiving.com/WLACBelloc2018 to reserve your seat or contact team@wlac.org.uk for more information.  Click here to download the WLAC Belloc Flyer

With grateful thanks to our sponsors Bective Leslie Marsh

22 Aug

Birthday Party at PlayFootball to celebrate our Centenary

Thank you to PlayFootball who hosted a fabulous Centenary Birthday Party for WLAC in July.  With zorbing football, beat-boxing, arts and crafts and much more, the day was fun-packed for everyone.

Our thanks also go to GLG, the Junior League of London, QPR in the Community Trust, Charity Bike Build and the Lyric Theatre Hammersmith, who all helped to make the party so fun and exciting.